There’s a way to communicate your feelings to someone else without injuring the other person. If you’re not taking their feelings into consideration, then you’re not truly communicating; there is no thought towards emotional safety. How are you showing up? Are you demonstrating care for your listener? You can get your point across without setting out to intentionally hurt the other person. If you’re going hard, you’re damaging yourself and the relationship. Compassion is important— communicate what you’re feeling and how you’re feeling in a way to build the relationship —not hurt it. Communicate in a way that you can be heard and the message can be received. If you’re yelling or speaking in a tone that is overpowering or dismissive or intended to make the other person feel bad or less than, that will not build the relationship; it will hurt it.
— Notes I took while listening to The King of the Heart podcast, (KOTH) Season 2, Episode 15. Took the notes some time ago. Found them again and wanted to share.