Thoughts on Over Responsibility

Somewhere along on my sojourn here on Earth, I developed a sometimes habit of taking over responsibility for other people’s behaviors. I’m talking family members or friends. When I made this conscious realization, I started to do the work of releasing it. And so, the other day, when I caught myself mentally prepping to apologize for someone else’s behavior, I stopped. Then, gave myself a silent, but gentle talking to 😉

It’s actually happened before with this person, where I’ve found myself going back to those assembled, first apologizing and then following up with a thank you for their help or their time.

But during this recent download-of-clarity, apart from practicing the unlearning of this unhealthy habit, I realized I could just proffer an appropriate in-the-moment response from me. Just from me. Instead of carrying an over responsibility of guilt or embarrassment for something I didn’t say or do.

And in situations where, for whatever reason, I feel like I should apologize on behalf of another, I’m working on remembering that there’s a way to consciously approach it without it feeling like I was the originator of whatever had transpired.

It’s carting it along like it’s mine part that I’m healing/ releasing. Because it clearly isn’t mine and treating it as such can add up, become unhealthy, and affect how I may unconsciously be relating in other areas of my life. 

Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries, healthy relating is something I’ve grown more and more interested in.  I’ve actually begun a practice of literally calling my life force energy back throughout the course of a day or at the end of a day or when I find myself mentally and or emotionally revisiting something or someone or an interaction that feels draining to my energy.  “I call my life force energy back from ____.  And I send _____ ‘s life force energy back in all ways healing and healthy for all concerned. I ask that everyone’s life force energy be cleansed and cleared in all ways aligned with the greatest and highest good for all concerned.”  I didn’t come up with it 😁. But it’s cobbled together from a mix of ideas I’ve come across through the years.  And I very often feel clearer-- more grounded in me-- after I do it.