Practicing Consciousness
Try not to get sidetracked. If someone asks something of you, instead of questioning the manner in which you’re being asked or taking the manner in which you feel you’re being asked, personally, pause. Breathe. Breathe through the moment before responding. If you are able to, ask for some time to get back to him or her. And during this self-requested-time-out do what you can to detach from the emotions tempting you to find him/her guilty. Instead, keep returning your focus to what YOUR BEST answer is. Instead of policing and judging their approach, gently allow space so you can follow through with actions that are in alignment with how you consciously want to represent yourself. In some cases, this will be “easy” and in some cases it will take several breaths, several minutes in self-requested-time-out, several gentle re-focusing attempts on how YOU WANT to represent yourself as opposed to how the other person seems to be choosing to represent his/herself. It might take practice. Like, a lot, a lot. But isn’t the peace of mind that comes from knowing you spoke from a place filled with as much clarity as you could, worth it? Cheering. You. On♥