Breaking Surface by Mark Nepo
Let no one keep you from your journey,
no rabbi or priest, no mother
who wants you to dig for treasures
she misplaced, no father
who won't let one life be enough,
no lover who measures their worth
by what you might give up,
no voice that tells you in the night
it can't be done.
Let nothing dissuade you
from seeing what you see
or feeling the winds that make you
want to dance alone
or go where no one
has yet to go.
You are the only explorer.
Your heart, the unreadable compass.
Your soul, the shore of a promise
too great to be ignored.
Sunday, October 16, 2016
Working on Forgiveness
"I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and set you free." -- Louise L. Hay affirmation from her book, You Can Heal Your Life.
I recently felt hurt in an exchange with someone I care about. I had asked a question from (my perspective) a place of love, and was told "Mind your own business." The reply was so unexpected and I had been so emotionally open and invested that the next thing I knew, I found myself fighting silent tears. I didn't engage any further, was careful to hide my tears, and as soon as the opportunity presented itself, I made my way to the bathroom and cried.
I gave myself permission to cry. I rationalized that a part of me was hurt, and that innocent feeling part-- that inner child--, required help. So the adult part of me, gave her space to cry. It was the safest way for me to get the hurt out or at the very least assist the healing process along.
Later, when I realized that future imagined interactions with this person had me planning to interact from a place of hurt, I reached for a mantra. The one that came to mind is from Louise L. Hay's You Can Heal Your Life: "I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and set you free."
My thinking was I would say this mantra over and over until it felt true for me-- however long or short it takes. And I'll know it's worked when I can think back to the exchange and not feel hurt. As I committed to saying it, I genuinely felt like I was helping myself via this action than taking ones that would tempt me to wall myself up with hurt.
I wanted to change the potential effect of the initial exchange. I'm the one inhabiting this body, so I'd like to help it be more of a home as much as I consciously can.
For more on Louise L. Hay's thoughts on Forgiveness: http://www.louisehay.com/forgiveness/
I recently felt hurt in an exchange with someone I care about. I had asked a question from (my perspective) a place of love, and was told "Mind your own business." The reply was so unexpected and I had been so emotionally open and invested that the next thing I knew, I found myself fighting silent tears. I didn't engage any further, was careful to hide my tears, and as soon as the opportunity presented itself, I made my way to the bathroom and cried.
I gave myself permission to cry. I rationalized that a part of me was hurt, and that innocent feeling part-- that inner child--, required help. So the adult part of me, gave her space to cry. It was the safest way for me to get the hurt out or at the very least assist the healing process along.
Later, when I realized that future imagined interactions with this person had me planning to interact from a place of hurt, I reached for a mantra. The one that came to mind is from Louise L. Hay's You Can Heal Your Life: "I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and set you free."
My thinking was I would say this mantra over and over until it felt true for me-- however long or short it takes. And I'll know it's worked when I can think back to the exchange and not feel hurt. As I committed to saying it, I genuinely felt like I was helping myself via this action than taking ones that would tempt me to wall myself up with hurt.
I wanted to change the potential effect of the initial exchange. I'm the one inhabiting this body, so I'd like to help it be more of a home as much as I consciously can.
For more on Louise L. Hay's thoughts on Forgiveness: http://www.louisehay.com/forgiveness/
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