THAT QUESTION OF MARRIAGE

Member of the General Populous: But don’t you want to get married?

Deliberately Mindful Member of the General Populous: You know what I’d REALLY want? To experience a loving relationship with another person comprised of the following ingredients: heart centered, emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually Healthy for all directly involved, calls forth my compassion & passion, calls forth the fearlessness to open my heart/spirit, calls forth the strength and courage to speak from my heart always, calls forth the clarity to request guidance from my Higher Self at any given moment and expect said guidance, calls forth my ability to play, laugh, be courageous, inspire and be inspired, and reminds me how alive and capable and extraordinary I inherently am.

Member of the General Populous: You’re asking for a lot.
Deliberately Mindful Member of the General Populous: I’m worth it. So are you. So is everyone-- if that’s what they want. Honestly, that’s what I’m interested in and if it happens to include the label of marriage, well then, as long as I’ve clearly & deliberately defined the details, “Why not?”

***Or another way of putting it (to quote Neale Donald Walsch's Conversations With God): "purpose of your relationship is to create an opportunity, not an obligation—an opportunity for growth, for full Self expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about you, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls—if you take that vow instead of the vows you’ve been taking—the relationship has begun on a very good note. It’s gotten off on the right foot. That’s a very good beginning..."

Thinking out Loud

I heard something today and I want to make a note of it.

I've always subscribed to the idea that I’m on earth to learn lessons and pass with flying colors so as not to repeat those classes again. But today, someone described it more as being on earth (or in this focused consciousness to gain experiences) to live the experiences and not to place a pass/fail, negative/positive label on it.

One example of just accepting and going deeper into letting the experience live, the lady who gave the talk mentioned stubbing her toe. She was tempted to wallow in the pain and epic fail perception that stubbing her toe was wrong/should not have happened and that now, it was a negative and painful thing. But then, she consciously and verbally changed her perception of the event to accepting that she just had a stubbing-her-toe experience. And then, found herself laughing.

I can see how viewing it in this manner can be more productive and accepting of what a moment has to offer and I honestly find this shift in perception (allowing experiences to just be that--experiences) engaging.

While I was meditating this morning, a thought came to mind. When one is disappointed in someone else’s actions, is it fair to put the blame of disappointment on the other person? Isn’t the disappointment really a projection of the originator of the feeling because his/her hopes were not met? Looking at it this way, asks me to take ownership of my feelings. In any given situation, all the players have feelings and expectations. I am responsible for what I put out there. You are allowed to feel how you ultimately choose to feel. My sense of peace/happiness is not or cannot be dependent on something outside of myself and at the same time, if my peace is built on shaky ground and I end up feeling the effects of this earthquake, I should look back to myself/actions/thoughts and retrace my steps to moving in the direction of rebuilding on a foundation of inner peace.

There is a place where the aforementioned thoughts intersect.

While being mindful of what I’m putting out and why I’m putting the thought/energy out there, allow myself to accept what is as an experience. And then sift through the experiences and pay loving attention to those that feel inherently healthy so that I can consciously and subconsciously manifest more of that in my life experience.

Let other people/situations show up the way they show up in your life. In the case of people, speak up (if you are inspired to) and say what you feel the need to say but remember that at the end of the day, you are responsible for your happiness and blaming others takes your inherent power away from you. Blaming others is giving away your own power. Even if you really feel others are at fault, what steps can you take to truly get back to being closer to fine?

In situations that manifest, what would happen if you accepted instead of resisted the experience? I guess the proof is in the pudding...